The darts player’s extreme comments reflect a mindset shared by all too many which shames survivors and causes anguish and intimidation
Child abusers and rapists mostly get away with it. That’s the harrowing truth. “The problem is much bigger than shown in official statistics, as most crimes are not disclosed and/or reported,” says the NSPCC. “Most sexual abuse isn’t reported, detected or prosecuted. Most children don’t tell anyone they’re being sexually abused.” The vast majority of abuse isn’t committed by random strangers: it’s by relatives, carers, people in positions of authority. It’s about exploiting a disparity of power, with the belief that the victim wouldn’t dare speak out. A society that leaves survivors of sexual abuse and rape with internalised shame and guilt silences them, too.
That’s why Eric Bristow’s disturbing tweets matter. They are extreme but indicative of a mindset shared by all too many. “Might be a looney but if some football coach was touching me when I was a kid as I got older I would have went back and sorted that poof out,” he tweeted. “Dart players tough guys footballers wimps,” continued his tirade. “U got to sought him out when u get older or don’t look in the mirror glad I am a dart player proper men.” An apology did eventually come: “Sorry meant paedo not poof.”
what i was saying was when the football lads got older and fitter they should have went back and sorted him out